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Best Cheap Psychic *My experience* on Oranum

First time posting ANYTHING like this!

I really wasn’t expecting to have a psychic be able to pinpoint my personality accurately and immediately. It was incredible. I am a very unique person and the amount of information this psychic had to share with me was unreal!

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My jaw was dropped to the floor the entire time. What an amazing awesome experience to be able to hear all about the things that have been flying around my head. Sometimes the truth is difficult — but over and over I hear in my head the same thing that he told me and it was incredibly cathartic and a total blessing to hear from him that it is up to me to do it, and on my own. What that is… it’s just between us.

I highly recommend this reader. Fantastic.

nourevoyance  is his name… 

Go get a reading today !

One reason people love narcissists who lie, abuse, don’t love them back or treat them well!

One reason people love narcissists who lie, abuse, don’t love them back or treat them well! is a personal flaw. Deeo down people who love those capable of loving them back believe the very best in others. They can not accept that there is an individual who exists who is actually that hollow, that empty and that uncaring. They believe the words instead of the actions. Often from a deep seated desire and want to be consistent, loving and have the same trust, self respect and loyalty that they provide others. Especially their NPD (narcissistic), borderline or abusive spouse.

The fear KARMA in a sense, that if they don’t love others unconditionally that they may not get this type of love back which is, to them, the only love. Loving with no boundaries, always being there for your partner. Unfortunately the victim of the NPD and abusive behavior, lies, manipulation, stealing, etc is often already living in personal hell… as they are participating in a relationship with someone incapable or not willing to love them back.

They may feel they are not loved “anymore” which in a sense is true. Once the individual who is treating you in this horrible and abusive fashion hooked you, they became completely disinterested.

Sad but true. Thoughts?

Obesity, the numbers say the fattest states are the poorest states in the U.S.

2005-2006 obesity data US & Canada. 

Shockingly, the thinnest and likely most active state Colorado is the thinnest state in America and the only one of all 50 states to have under 20% obesity. Which is the same as every single highly populated Provence in Canada.

Our fattest territories are lowly populated, have permafrost due to their location in the far north  and still the populous has 24-26% obesity which is the same as Washington and other healthy & active areas in the U.S.

 

The poorest states are the fattest where 28-30.6% of residents are obese (or worse 31.6%!)
Just look at the map for yourself, the fattest states are indeed the poorest! 

  
What does this say about America? Western Culture? Society? With increasing obesity rates in both the U.S. And Canada… How much does this have to do with the death of the American Dream and the breakdown of our culture where the median income family was able to own a home, have safety, have security and live life as expected. Could the obesity have anything to do with stress and socioeconomic pressures? 
 

The Enneagram Prison Project

http://www.enneagramprisonproject.org

Meet the EPP Ambassadors | Enneagram Prison Project from Susan Olesek on Vimeo.

Helping inmates by teaching them how to heal their own hearts through the wisdom of the enneagram and learning about their own personalities and desires. This is a fantastic idea and I am really glad someone is reaching out to our prisoners to teach them about themselves and what really motivates them. I believe this is one of the only ways to truly heal.

The enneagram has helped me personally in endless ways when it comes to self understanding and being able to understand others. I can only imagine how different things would be if the enneagram was used for widespread prisoner reform!

Another brilliant idea is this link I found, Enneagram for the DSM.

I’m too nice, what should I do?

You can’t love someone into treating you better. They need to decide that treating better is something that’s worth it for them. There’s no way that you can keep treating someone better and better if they’re treating me worse and worse and you expect them to change. Why would they change if they have absolutely no incentive to.

I’m too nice, what should I do?

Your morals can cause you trouble if you always want to treat other people well and other people are treating you badly in return. You will keep treating his other people while and hoping and expecting from them same thing. The same thing being honesty, respect, caring, mutual appreciation and so many more things that might be common sense for you.

What you need to remember about commonsense, is the commonsense is called common for a reason. It is common sense to every individual that most individuals retain the same set of logical and easily understood values. Unfortunately this is not the case, regardless of what anyone says to you, or has said about themselves. You cannot assume everyone is being honest, that people say what they mean, and tell you the truth.

The golden rule might not be complex enough for our current day situation. If you give someone an amount of gold for the golden rule for what they’ve given you, and they take that gold and they spend it on heroin or they start betting in elaborate dogfights which is causing harm to animals. It might be better to not handover your gold that individual even if they have an extraordinarily absurd amount of things which you enjoy if they are overal causing great harm it might be best for you to discontinue your kind behaviors.

Basically what I’m saying is the golden rule does not apply when you were enabling people to hurt you or others. You may always want to be there for someone, or you may always want to respond their messages, and you may always want them to know that you care but if they don’t treat you in the exact same way you were teaching them that you don’t deserve to be treated well.

“Why am I not good enough?”

“Am I too ugly? too fat? Too stupid? Too *insert trait here”

It’s hard to not ask questions about the personal responsibility in the situation, or what your own role is in their misbehavior, you have to ask yourself “why does this person act this way?”

You must analyze the situation from a third party perspective. Imagine if your brother, mother, friend or stranger was in the same situation? Remove yourself from the situation and ask yourself what advice you would give another who is in your shoes. Break things down to the basics. Look at things and try and take things less personally.

This can be a very daunting task, to put yourself in an external perspective, but the insight it might provide could be incredible useful.

This is why many people get utterly confused and interactions with other human beings that can become extensively complicated. people are presented with a moral battle inbetween a way in which they feel is right for themselves, a way in which will get them treated well, or in a way that is expected by them in their society. Every experience is a constant battle in deciding which part of yourself you should comply with, the part of yourself which wants to please others, the part of yourself which is being urged by your emotional desires, the intellectual and logical part of yourself, or the part of yourself which wants to comply to societies rules. Of course the parts of yourself which are either agree or disagree with your given situation are going to be dependent on who you are individually and your own personal life experiences emotions and thoughts. These things all coming to play and every single decision that you make believe it or not.

This is why it’s important to realize that not all people think like you do. Your thoughts and your emotions and your feelings are individual to you.

If you tell somebody that you are experiencing or are feeling something and they ignore it and focus on their feelings and they immediately make it about them. Then you switch the focus of them completely, and they do this over and over again how are you ever supposed to talk about your feelings? If you live by your values and always need to meet other people’s needs when they arise?

This is what it means to set boundaries, If someone keeps abusing you again and again and again it doesn’t mean that you should do something to hurt them or somethig that is a immoral even if they’re doing immoral acts to you. Not enabling might mean saying no, not answering that phone call or not giving into demands that you really want to meet.

Enabling is an important word. Enabling a bad person can make them worse. Behavior builds on itself and if someone is treating you badly and you let them. You are teaching them to build neural paths, rewarding for the negative behavior. Ignore this, and this individual will end up abusing others in the future the exact same way that they have abused you. You are setting someone else who was also good-natured and understanding to get taken advantage of by somebody who will take them for granted.

You are also not doing the service to the person who’s being abusive, you were letting them treat you an abusive way which is teaching them that using others will reward them.

Set boundaries, being too nice could actually be mean to the wrong person.

How To Feel Better When I’m Upset

Dealing With Ourselves When We’re Upset

Feeling better when im angry
I’m so angry, but I’ll feel better

 

Sometimes, we may tend to get upset, rude, angry or unreasonable for a dense variety of reasons. In some cases, or all, you may have taught yourself that this behavior is ok. Sometimes you may reflect on this behavior as a negative and criticize each word said and identify your manner. How you chose to respond can make a world of difference between a person who feels satisfied with the way you have handled yourself during situations where negative feelings occur and a person who never wants to see or “deal” with you again.

When we get upset and angry our levels of consciousness decrease rapidly, and in my personal experience “dumb down” our overall mental capacity from hero to zero. A great example of this mental decline would be the default story of a superhero. When the superhero integrates into society they lose their super powers by believing the power is not the way society views things as “normal”. Our superhero essentially “dumbs down” and loses their super power and tends to live a normal life comfortably cuddled into society. The super hero integrated still works hard for their society beliefs, does what’s best for their communities, and typically doesn’t have many friends. Let’s be honest, you don’t see many comics about the super hero’s integrated alter ego.

Being angry, upset, rude, unreasonable, all fall into deep patterns of verbal abuse that the abuser may or may not be able to identify, and eventually the abuser becomes a victim in their own mind and completely flips the situation on the victim. This abusive tactic typically makes the abused believe they are the one who is in the wrong. In most cases of verbal abuse situations, the abuser may get completely comfortable with their verbal patters that the abuser needs a new “high”, and begins abusing physically. The cycle of abuse is a very powerful evil that will continue happening until the abuser is confronted with their behavior by an equal force, basically being told that they’re being abusive. The abuser must be placed in the spotlight for them to realize this type of behavior is not appropriate and destructive to themselves, and their peers.

Here are some tips for dealing with situations when you’re angry or upset and handling these situations to everyone’s satisfaction. Thinking a little differently will assist with your positive mental well-being along with everyone you’re associated with:


  1. Remain calm: When a person becomes upset about a situation, or even just wants to talk about a problem, there is nothing to be gained by responding in an upset manner. If you become upset and angry the situation will probably escalate out of control and usually become counterproductive to your overall conversation goal. It is imperative that you maintain control of yourself, your emotions and remain calm. Even if the events of the conversation make you feel uncomfortable, or even upset. Your first step towards handling these situations is to remain calm and critically think about the negative events taking place during the interaction. How can you change this negative into a positive while keeping control of the interaction? Implement the positive logic of your analyzed data to the situation.
  2. Listen like a fox: When a situation arises when the other person is angry or upset, the first thing the upset person wants to do is vent and verbalize their complaints and feelings. For this person they’ll definitely need at least one thing, a person to actually listens to what they’re saying. No matter how much you’re against it. You are that person who will be taking the situation by the leash and listening with care and respect. Listening can typically defuse a situation, as long as the person feels acknowledged to their issues. When the person is finished talking, go ahead summarize what you’ve heard and ask any questions to further clarify their issues. Your body language is extremely important in these situations. Always keep solid eye contact. Stand or sit up straight, never slouch, give undivided attention and respect. At all times keep your arms uncrossed, and show how closely you’re paying attention to their problem.
  3. Don’t take it personally: Always keep in mind that the person may or may not be upset directly with you. They may be upset with your behavior or words that led you to be in the negative situation. The person is simply letting you know the way they feel about you and the way you’ve handled yourself. Your personal feelings are beside the point when these feelings form and you have no one to blame but yourself when it comes to these negative impact situations. You are in full control of the way you think and feel, internally and externally. You have no right to take things personally. If you feel this is a right you’ll decline to lower levels of consciousness immediately.
  4. Actively empathize: After the negative interaction, the person you’ve been talking with will want to know if you’ve been listening and also want to verify you fully understand the feelings that have been extroverted to you during the conversation. Express empathy for their discomfort and ensure they’re fully aware you understand the full nature of the situation at hand. Respect and understanding go a long way towards recovering from a stressful or negative situation.
  5. Be Apologetic: It is not relevant if the person’s complaints and judgments are a factor to you. If you want the person to remain an acquaintance or friend a simple heartfelt apology is all you’ll need to accomplish, from here staying on track for friendship recovery should be easier for all parties involved. Ensure the person that you have been able to analyze the situation with logic and understanding: “I’m sorry I’ve upset you, I can see how my behavior could impact this situation in a negative manner.”
  6. Find a solution: Once you and the people involved understand that you have identified your issues, offer some solutions. Ask what they think the outcome of the situation should be, even implement your own solutions into the resolution. You should have thought of a few solutions by now with your forward thinking. Extrovert this thinking into the solution because in most negative situations the person involved is simply looking for the resolution to the issue. Providing different solutions will verify your listening and understanding, and may also result in satisfaction and resolution to the issue from everyone involved.

Top 10 Affirmations for Self Confidence

Self confidence is incredibly important. That is why California Truth has written out these very important top/best affirmations for self confidence with a voice recording so you can listen to them again and again!

  1. People can feel my confidence radiate from every single millimeter of my body

  2. People are drawn to my confidence and attractiveness.

  3. I am bursting with positive energy and emotion.

  4. I am completely sure of myself yet humble enough to defer making judgments on anyone or anything until I have fully assessed the situation and have a deeper understanding.

  5. I am completely full of life and energy and I have more than enough energy to do everything that I need.

  6. I am happy with my mind and my body and both continue to improve daily as I understand further my underlying strength and power.

  7. I feel comfortable in my skin and I am grateful for my attractive body.

  8. It feel fantastic to be alive and I am sharing each moment as a celebration in every moment throughout the day.

  9. I can not get enough of life, because around every corner life is blessing me with more opportunity than I could even imagine for myself!

  10. Every closed window offers an open door with even better opportunities I would have been closed off to before but am now fully aware of.

LOVE YOURSELF TODAY

  1. You are amazing

  2. You are awesome

  3. Your value comes from within

  4. You deserve to be happy

  5. You have a purpose

  6. You know what that purpose is

  7. When you act as your authentic self you will BE HAPPY!

  8. Every second of this life counts

  9. Stop right now and be thankful for your life; FEEL IT

  10. Now show yourself that you care and give yourself a hug

If there is anyone else in the world who deserves it, why wouldn’t you?

>>> HUG <<<